The twanging of life
Twelfth Part : Sorry
During the voyage of my life l have been meeting a lot of people with different situations and ways of saying sorry even in EDC, for some people it is easy and for others it isn't, for many people it is hard for their boyfriends and girlfriends and even l saw some people they say it for others but they can't say it for any member of their families.
We Sudanese people, most of us haven't taken enough upbringing of saying sorry and some people say it but they don't mean it, fundamentally this problem is responsible about most of our broken relationships especially in love relationships, according to my modest life experience there are several important things you have to know, one of them is that .. the key of a successful relationship is being able to apologize and it is clear for you that, more intimately you are involved with another person it will be more difficult to say I am sorry.
Think about this, would the word "sorry" have made any difference ?!, is it just a word or one word against thousand actions ?!, always l think a lot about these two questions and l always wonder, but listen to me .. you are aware of their faults and they are aware of yours so it is very easy in the heat of battle to hurt your partner in a very sensitive place whoever this partner is, girlfriend , boyfriend or even friend, this partner trusted you by forming a relationship and letting himself or herself to be vulnerable and then when you say "I am sorry" l think it must be done with the sensitivity to understand the line that was crossed.
I know, majority of Sudanese people think that, sorry is a sign of weakness but actually it is not, because when you say sorry for someone, here you aren't telling him your weakness, you are telling him your care , your love and his real place in your heart, for me sorry is a question that begs forgiveness, not weakness .. l like the words of Mr.Craig Silvey, 'Sorry means you feel the pulse of other people's pain as well as your own and saying it means, you take a share of it and so it binds us together and makes us trodden and sodden as one another' he said.
Finally we are in need of this culture, if now it is hard for you to say it for any person or even for some people, l think chocolate says "I am sorry" so much better than words.
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